Trevortni Writes

Introverts Write

My fellow Introverts; I have a suggestion for you.  Write it down; “it” being all of your thoughts and feelings.  There are so many times our introversion can be overwhelming even if it is just in our head.  When you write it down (or type) it will help the thoughts to solidify into something with which you can possibly work.

Not only am I an Introvert; I also suffer from anxiety and PTSD.  I’m a triple threat; what are you?  Although I often fall off track, journaling has helped a great deal because it is always there and will never let you down.  I roam around my home and find old journals, large and small waiting on me to come back to them.  Sighting them evokes guilt in my negligence of them.  

As I type this entry I reflect back to my childhood in which I obsessed with books and loved to write on the empty pages always at the back of the book. If you are a child of the late 60’s, you know that writing in a book meant you were a rule breaker.  Are you a rule breaker? I was and I still am.  My journaling has now taken on a public reign now that I’m breaking the rules of silence by sharing parts of me.

What’s Next

While in the process of moving on with my life and embracing this lovable Introvert, I decided it was time to update and transform this blog.  Fair warning; this blog is all about  me and my personal and business growth. Having surpassed the half-century mark I have found myself learning how to be selfish.  Any empty nester can relate; the children are all grown and out of the house (possibly for many years). You ask yourself “what’s next” on this journey to transformation.

First step:  Divorce (we’ll talk more about that later).

Second step: Getting in shape.

Third step: Weightloss or should I say step two (a)?

Fourth step: Relocation (Dallas here I come.)

Fifth step:  Stay Tuned…………

How Difficult is it to Start a Business

I would like to share an article that was shared with me by Janis & Mia – founders of La Bella Baskets. This is one of their favorite articles. As you read it count the many blessings we have in this business.  

Lately, I have heard so many people say how difficult starting a business can be.

“It’s hard.”
 “I can’t get any people to visit my site”,
” I can’t people to join my business.”
“This just isn’t for me.”
“I don’t have the time.”
“I didn’t  know how difficult it would be.”

Well, I am a single Mom of three who, before starting my own homebased business,
held down two jobs. I would get up at 4:00 in the morning and not get to bed until midnight most nights, after returning from my part-time retail job, packing lunches, checking homework and relieving my mother, who helped out with the kids.

That, my friends, is difficult.

It is difficult always having to lower your dreams to meet your means. It is difficult to miss your son’s football game because you have to work. It is difficult knowing the rust bucket you call a car is eating you alive in maintenance, but you can’t afford a new one. It is difficult to realize that someone else is going to watch your daughter take her first step or have your son say mama to the preschool teacher.

It is difficult knowing that you have spent 40 years of your life working
for someone else, only to realize that you will be retiring on one-third
of what you can live on today. Or, worse yet, it is difficult knowing that you have diligently worked all your life, only to be given an early retirement and replaced by someone younger, more capable.

I will tell you what is difficult. It is difficult waking up one morning
and realizing that your children, the most precious things imaginable, no longer need bottles, diapers, have tea parties, or are shorter than the baseball bat they are trying to swing. It is difficult realizing it is too late and that the time frittered away can never be retrieved. It slips through our fingers one second at a time.

It is also difficult watching the spark in your partner’s eyes fade
because both of you realize the house you have been wanting is just a
dream because someone else is controlling your finances.

We have nasty habits about rationalizing, procrastination and skirting
important things, rather than facing the issues. Too often we allow others who do not pay our bills, who do not share our dreams, to direct our futures.

As children we have absolutely no freedom; we rebel in our teens and
scream for freedom. We reach adulthood and are finally free, only to
relinquish that freedom because we think it is too difficult. We do not
want to take responsibility. We do not want to make a wrong decision, so we obligingly give that awesome power to someone else. We wake up too late. We hear ourselves uttering phrases like: “I wish I had only . . .” and “If I could do it over again.”

You have no one but yourself to blame. You had the chance. Perhaps the opportunity was presented many times and each time you elevated the trivial to a higher priority than yourself.

Let me ask you: Is building our business really difficult?
Is it so traumatic to show someone an exciting product or idea? Is it so
difficult to understand that if you work your business consistenly, you just might finally be able to send your children to a college chosen by excellence, rather than one chosen by price?

Would you work really hard for eight to ten years, so you could mold a
lifestyle of your choosing, so your family could live a lifestyle of their
dreams, rather than trying to live how someone else thinks you should live?

How difficult is it to pick up the phone and call your prospect? How
difficult is it to place ads? How   difficult is it, really, to share what you love with others? Think about it.

Realize the awesome power you have in your hands by owning your own business. There
are people out there working three jobs. There are people drowning in
debt; or agonizing through bankruptcy, realizing they only needed a couple
hundred more dollars per month. That is difficult!

This business you have chosen has the ability to change lives. Your business cannot do anything. But YOU can change lives with it. You are the one with the life-changing ability. What are you waiting for?

There is difficulty and pain in success, and there is difficulty and pain
in failure. Difficulty and pain in success will last a short period of
time; but pain in failure lasts a lifetime. Which one is really more difficult?

You will pay a price for your actions, and your choices.

Which choice will you make?